Retreat From Negativity and Open Your Mind


I’m sure you have noticed it too – when I take a very good look around me, I see a world in chaos, in trouble, and savage acts.  These savage acts come from human beings, animals, and even microbes.

It completely and utterly amazes me in a disgusting sort of way, how humans that call themselves civilized are so far from civilized.  Everything seems to appeal to their primal side or their dark side.  That seems exciting and makes people ‘forget who they are.’ If things do not contain drama, or some act of a negative nature, it holds no interest.

There are so many places, things, situations, that I could go on and on about but these are my thoughts at the time and they are what I want to share with you now.  Drama – this one really cracks me up.  I’ve been to dating sites, I’ve spoken with many people, I’ve heard from friends and their friends, and so many sources, I don’t want a friend or a partner with drama.  First, please tell me who does not have drama in their life – especially now in this world where we are turning our world into a mindless prison camp. Everyone has drama and if you are lucky enough to go without it for a period of time, you can bet it will find you no matter where you hide.  I’m not trying to be negative – that is not my point.  The point is that people need to be accepting of others.  They want perfect people to be around but those people need to reflect on their own lives first.

Drama comes as a result of either bad circumstances or something that we have caused, perhaps not intentionally but the cause and effect situation comes into being here. Some people are drawn to drama and some just can’t seem to live without it.  I have met of these people and they do not actually like the drama but do not know how to live without it. I has become a part of their lives and they are so afraid to move beyond it, they would rather stay totally and completely miserable instead of moving forward into something better.  That of course involves moving out of their comfort zone and that is like running from an axe murderer to them.

Anyway, this all started because my cat killed a mouse today.  Now you might say well that is what cats do and then everyone is just all hunky dory fine with that but is that ok? Is it really ok for one life to kill another?  No provocation, no threat, nothing  and now that little mouse who was just trying to get warm, trying to come in out of the cold is now deceased. In a child’s movie, if the little mouse was killed it would be such a horrible and sad moment.  I realize that cats have that predator instinct and that is how they were made and some may say that is why we are superior OR some may say that is why we are higher on the food chain and that my friends is a very scary thought now isn’t it?  The food chain, so to someone else – may we be food as well? Would that be ok if that was their predator instinct?

We as people know better than to just go around killing – or at least most of us do but we still carry very savage thoughts, make beastly comments every day on places like Facebook and other social media, judge everyone and their mother like it is their job and it is getting worse by the day.

I can’t help but wonder if these same people happen to be perfect.  Are they so superior that they can judge, cut people with their sharp words just because?  Are they gods?  If they are doing these things then you know they themselves are far from perfect people.  I am also not a saint or anywhere close to it but I have dedicated myself to making people feel better, to helping them when they need it, to putting my own problems and issues aside so that I can take on the needs of others for a while.

I am not expecting others to do that but I am expecting that people should and are fully capable of being responsible, loving, and caring individuals but the majority of people are getting caught up in one big wallowing horrific cloud of negativity that they don’t know how else to be.  It is like a lethal game of follow the leader. Be that one person who makes a difference. Did you not like the stupid comment John made on his Facebook today – wait, instead of making a snide or insulting remark, think for a minute on John’s life.  Maybe he make terrible remarks or makes fun of people all day – maybe that is his thing so are you going to be just like John?  Or maybe John doesn’t hurt people’s feelings – so why not go ahead and hurt John a little today so you can have your laugh?

There is no way that I would be able to make the point that I started out to make when I began writing this blog because it would probably consume a book, but please, just for today, say something nice to everyone you come across.  Smile at everyone, even strangers and if they do not return the smile or even give you a bad look or remark, just let it go – you don’t know what they may be going through. Just for today – patch up a skirmish with someone.  Just for today, do something nice for someone else.

Also, try to open your mind just a little bit more to see what underlying chaos is causing the strife in our world – our only place to live. The one place where the one race that exists – the human race – lives together.  Love one another, bring peace to another which will bring peace to your heart, mind, and body.

​Discover your spiritual path – not a religious path, or a political path, and you will set yourself free.



Where Did Respect Go – Do You Have It?

Everybody is looking for love – or are they?

Women are looking for love, some men are looking for love but what is truly disturbing is how completely disrespectful the entire love thing has become. It is a jungle of selfishness, vanity, and abuse – both of others and of self.

I really believe the the true concept of love has been long forgotten and is buried somewhere deep within the universe someplace.  Love scares me so much because I speak to people every day – it is my job – and what is see is atrocious!

I get it that two people must find something attractive in the each other for a real connection but people are way overboard with their expectations.  That is only one issue.  It is so much easier for a man to find a woman than it is for a woman to find a man.  

First of all, people of both sexes seem to be very selfish these days.  They don’t care about treading on someone else’s feelings or treating the person they ‘love’ like an adult. Women will be much more lenient when searching for a man. Of course they want a good-looking guy – or at least what they deem to be good-looking and that is fine however, most women will not close the door to other possibilities.  Women will date thin men, fat men, balding met, ignorant men, disgusting men, etc. just because they are either desperate for their fantasy of being in love, or in most cases, they can see beyond what social status deems good-looking.  

Most men however, even the very thin, fat, balding, nasty, etc. men, still want a Barbie doll.  They want a build-a-Barbie as a prize on their arm.  Most won’t look past the surface and see the real beauty – the soul.  So where is their soul?

I’m not saying that women are not that way.  As a matter of fact, there are plenty of vein, ignorant women out there.  

These days, you see someone hot, you hop in the sack, and then if they are good, maybe you will do it again.  Then, who knows, maybe that will lead to something more.  No one cares about what is important.  THE PERSON.  Everyone looses those good-looks and then all you have left is the person.  But nowadays, there is a simple cure for that too – just move on.   WTF?  What is wrong with people?

I realize that lack of self-esteem can be found in both women and men but women go out of their way to keep it lost.  This is just downright wrong!  Women, wake the heck up.  You make is so easy for a man to treat you horrible and to keep the social madness of being ok for a man to be a man – aka be a pervert.  It is bad enough that society gives men a free pass to be disgusting disease-spreading sluts.  Sorry men but this is the truth.  It is ok for a man to be sexually slutty.  Way to go, awesome, you go get em.  NOT!  Women, if you want a decent guy and you want him to treat you with respect then here is a little advice – DEMAND IT.

If all women stopped sleeping around so easily and demanded that a man treat you with the utmost respect, then men would have no choice but to do so.  Otherwise, they would never get anything at all.  Why is it ok for a man to refer to a woman as his bitch?  Sure, I get the same story – that is just the word these day but we all know where that came from.  How is this ok?  Why do women agree to this behavior?  And there is so much more disrespectfulness.

Just the music out there is so completely disrespectful and totally insulting to women.  Why in the world would any woman deal with that crap?  Have some damn self-respect.

And MEN – why wouldn’t you want to be someone who your family could look up to?  Why in the world wouldn’t you want to be thought of a great person instead of a low-life pervert? Just to get some, for real?  Isn’t that desperate?

Another thing that is incredible to believe is how people seem to think that just because they are a couple, that suddenly somehow they own each other.  We were born separate individuals and we choose to share a part of our life with someone.  That doesn’t make anyone property.  It doesn’t make it ok to be disrespectful or to yell at each other.  Fathers and mothers can yell at their children but when in an adult relationship, what in the world makes someone think that for one second, it is ok to raise their voice to the other?  They are not their parent, they are their partner.  

Jealousy is another thing.  If you have to feel jealous all the time than either you have the wrong partner or you need to learn how to control your emotions and learn to trust. Jealousy has no place in a relationship.  You either love someone or you don’t.  Get out if you cannot trust someone.

Being in a relationship doesn’t complete someone.  You are already a complete being when you came into existence. You can only compliment someone’s life.  A person has to love someone for who they truly are.  You can’t mold and shape someone to your liking or for your benefit.  If you have to do so, then it is not the person that you are with that you really love and therefor not worth the relationship.

Don’t feel when you get into a relationship that with a little work, you can help this person to change their lives and all will be well – all you are asking for is troubles and more than likely a whole lot of hell before you get out.  You can’t fix people when you get into a relationship.  If you want to help fix people, then become a psychologist and fix your clients but when it comes to your own love life – you have to love that person for everything that they are and that they are not.

I apologize for the people that do not fit into these categories of disrespect for either themselves or others as this entry was not intended for you. I also want you to know that I am just your average woman that is perfectly happy with my love status.  I just counsel people on a daily basis and what I see, is horrifying.  It is always the same old story with a little twist.

I just want people to start taking love responsibly because on this planet of complete craziness – all we have is each other.  If we never start loving and respecting each other, where will we all end up?  As I’m sure I don’t have to point this out these days, but the people of this planet are already heading to hell – let’s change that and YES, you – you can make a big difference. 

Please spend at least 2 years with someone before you marry them.  Get to really know each other and see their true colors.  You will be happy that you did. If you have to rush into marriage to catch them – then this is a prerequisite to failure.  If someone truly loves you, they will always be there. A piece of paper never held a happy marriage together.

If everyone decided to take responsibility for being an adult that is capable of profound love, then a relationship wouldn’t be work, it would be bliss.

Sending love out to all of you.


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    We live in a crazy world and so many people feel overwhelmed and are extremely stressed out. It gets to the point where everything is difficult and we seem to lose sight of the good in our life.  No matter how troublesome our lives can become, there is always something great about it.  we are just too miserable to remember.

    In order to make things better, we need to bring the things we are grateful for back out into the light where we are aware all the time.  When we start to list all the things we are grateful for, we see that our lives aren’t as bad as what we may feel.  Also, being grateful and showing gratitude attracts more things to be grateful for.  The law of attraction will react and align with your positive vibrations of gratitude and will bring you more things to be grateful for.

    So what are you grateful for? Who are the people in your life that mean a lot to you and why?  Do you have a place to call home? Do you have food and clothing? Can you walk?  Even if you have disabilities, what can you do that you should be grateful for?  

    There is truth in the saying ‘count your blessings’.  That makes them multiply.  Every night when you go to bed, count your blessings, list everything you you are grateful for. 

    Don’t stop there – learn to appreciate things like how beautiful the sky was today or the big tree in your yard that must have been there for a long time.  Appreciate the wonderful and amazing things that surround you.  Put yourself in places where you can enjoy this world’s beauty and really absorb it.  Don’t just look at a flower and say that it is pretty.  Really look at it.  How many leaves does it have – or petals?  Really look at the color and the texture. Actually appreciate this living being. If you hold the flower, you can tune into its healing energy.

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  • Melody Beattie said,”Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

    This is a very wise statement that yields the truth. How about another one?

    “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Eckhart Tolle

    The practice of gratitude every day really starts to change your life but like everything you set out to improve – you must have persistence.  It takes 30 to 90 days to realize a change but you will experience a positive and wonderful change.

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  • Leave a comment telling us what you are grateful for.  We want your inspiration!  Thank you – we are grateful for you! 
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Enjali Nicole Jewels – Adorn Yourself With Magnificence – Check Them Out

This jewelry company hand-makes the majority of their jewelry.  They are awesome jewelry artists who love what they do and it shows through their work.

Check them out.

Enjali Nicole Jewels

You can see a slideshow of some of their masterpieces by clicking the link below.


The piece pictured below is one of my favorites.

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A Spiritual Conspiracy – This is a Great Read

I found this poem on a website called, Spiritual Quotes to Live By.  I found it to be very meaningful and there is much truth in these words.  I wanted to share it with you because it may speak to your heart and soul – perhaps you are part of this movement?  If not, you should definitely consider it.

Here is the poem:

A Spiritual Conspiracy
On the surface of the world right now there is war and violence
and things seem dark.
But calmly and quietly, at the same time,
something else is happening underground.
An inner revolution is taking place and certain individuals
are being called to a higher light.
It is a silent revolution.
From the inside out. From the ground up.
This is a Global operation…
A spiritual conspiracy.

There are sleeper cells in every nation on the planet.
You won’t see us on the T.V.
You won’t read about us in the newspaper.
You won’t hear about us on the radio.
We don’t seek any glory.
We don’t wear any uniform.
We come in all shapes and sizes, colours and styles.
Most of us work anonymously.
We are quietly working behind the scenes
in every country and culture of the world.
Cities big and small, mountains and valleys,
in farms and villages, tribes and remote islands.
You could pass by one of us on the street and not even notice.
We go undercover.
We remain behind the scenes.
It is of no concern to us who takes the final credit.
But simply that the work gets done.
Occasionally we spot each other in the street.
We give a quiet nod and continue on our way.
During the day many of us pretend we have normal jobs.
But behind the false storefront at night
is where the real work takes place.

Some call us the ‘Conscious Army.’
We are slowly creating a new world
with the power of our minds and hearts.
We follow, with passion and joy
our orders from the Central Spiritual Intelligence.
We are dropping soft, secret love bombs when no one is looking:
Kind words
Meditation and prayer
Social activism
Random acts of kindness
We each express ourselves in our own unique ways
with our own unique gifts and talents.
‘Be the change you want to see in the world’
That is the motto that fills our hearts.
We know it is the only way real transformation takes place.
We know that quietly and humbly
we have the power of all the oceans combined.
Our work is slow and meticulous like the formation of mountains.
It is not even visible at first glance,
and yet with it entire tectonic plates shall be moved
in the centuries to come.

Love is the new religion of the 21st century.
You don’t have to be a highly educated person,
or have any exceptional knowledge to understand it.
It comes from the intelligence of the heart
embedded in the timeless evolutionary pulse of all human beings.

Be the change you want to see in the world.
Nobody else can do it for you.
We are now recruiting
Perhaps you will join us
Or already have.
All are welcome…
The door is open.